(Women's Self-Defense / Female Self-Defense)
Copyright 2007 Richard Andrew King
In consideration of Ladies Self-Defense, or in deference to the global
community which prefers Ladies Self-Defence (defense with a 'c') or Women's Self-Defense, even Female Self-Defense, we at
LadiesSelfDefense.Com believe every person, especially every female, has the
inherent, God-given right to protect him or herself from unwanted
aggression using whatever means necessary to secure that protection.
Female self-defense begins with the philosophy, "My Life, My
Responsibility" corroborated by the tenet, "Competence Creates Confidence." In
this highly-charged, shrinking and ever-compacting world of others, clashing
ideologies and diminishing concern for one's fellow-man where females are being
assaulted, battered, raped and murdered on a daily basis right before our
media-saturated eyes, it is important that women of all ages remain ever
vigilant in the pursuit of their safety and well-being. This does not mean they
must become paranoid or beware of potential dangers to the point of neurosis but
simply to be aware of the possibility of personal assault and take measures to
Intrinsic in the concept of women's self-defense is the philosophy
behind the LadiesSelfDefense.Com acronym "Y.O.Y.O." - You're On Your
Own. As a woman, if you are going to be assaulted or attacked, the odds
are that you will be alone at the time and, hence, solely on your own.
Wisdom dictates, therefore, that you take proper measures to insure
your safety and well-being which includes the responsibility of
learning some basic self-defense skills.
Because women are nurturers by nature, they often feel uncomfortable
with the idea of having to hurt someone even if that person is
assaulting them. But the stark reality of female self-defense is that
if you're going to be
attacked and/or your children are present who rely on you to protect
them, then inflicting harm on an attacker is certainly reasonable and
justifiable. Think of animals. Mothers protect their young with a
vengeance, as well they should. It's the natural order of things. Why,
then, should human mothers feel differently? They shouldn't. Women's
self-defense is as natural a right as childbirth. In fact, women's
self-defense is a duty and responsibility for having children.
Annette is one of the ladies in our self-defense program. Here are her
words regarding a woman's right to protect herself and her loved ones:
We women are typically "nurturers" or
"comforters," a role which often gets misconstrued as being passive.
Protecting our own safety—and that of our children—is,
however, an assertive—and even aggressive—responsibility.
At first, I felt somewhat shy to try the punches and kicks, but I've
had a personal paradigm shift in how I view self-defense skills. I
realized how they may someday save my life, and there is nothing more
nurturing than knowing how to use your power in order to survive.
Before I had any training in martial
arts and self-defense, I must admit that I was naïve as to the
importance of it. I assumed that I would instinctively know what to do
in a crisis situation. To be honest, though, I probably would have just
frozen in fear. Our panic responses are often inefficient and
ineffective. Just like CPR and swimming, self-defense techniques are
life-saving skills that must be learned. For me, being a student of
Kiado-Ryu has brought a feeling of strength, both inside and out, and
more peace of mind. I am more aware—but less afraid—of
potential threats in my environment. Now I am prepared to respond
wisely and pro-actively to a potential attacker. This "confidence
through competence" has also helped me better assert myself in
day-to-day situations. Learning self-defense is a way to honor the
value of your life, while highlighting the importance of personal
Ladies, self-defense is your right. Embrace it and keep yourselves,
your children and loved ones safe, whole and free from harm so you and
they can more fully live the life which God has given.
Richard Andrew King: Grandmaster, Kiado-Ryu Karate