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College Bound: Protecting Our Daughters
Copyright 2007 Richard Andrew King
As our babies, we cradled them in our arms when they were infants. We
kissed them, nurtured them, supervised them, encouraged them, supported
them, loved them as they grew and matured and . . . protected them. As
loving parents, protecting our children is not just our responsibility,
it's our passion. But how do we protect them when we're physically
separated from them and they from us? How do we insure their safety in
a world growing madder, more insane, more unstable and more dangerous
by the day, ala the Virginia Tech Massacre on 16 April 2007 in which
thirty-three people died, mostly college students, a horrible,
heart-wrenching event claiming the unwelcomed title as the deadliest
shooting in modern U.S. history? Even when our little girls are
accomplished and mature women, even mothers, they will always be our
children and our hearts can never be severed from the angst to protect
them and keep them safe and out of Harm's way.
I remember when both my daughters went off to college. It was a
transformative experience. All grown up, leaving home and ready to take
on the world, they were still more vulnerable than they knew, but I
knew it in spite of their comforting, parting words, "Don't worry, Dad.
I'll by okay." As parents, "okay" is what we pray for.
Here are some sobering thoughts from OnlineLawyerSource.com:
1. "Sexual assault statistics including female college students have
been the subject of various studies. In a 1988 national study involving
32 college campuses, one in four students was found to be a victim of
rape or attempted rape. Some studies have suggested sexual assault
statistics among college students is so high because of the role of
alcohol and drugs. Many women believe reporting a sexual assault
against a person if they have been drinking or were intoxicated cannot
occur, but this is not right. Sexual assault is a violation, and being
intoxicated does not mean the law no longer applies."
2. "Sexual assault statistics show that 17 percent of reported cases
against females resulted in injured victims. The 1992 National Victim
Center and Crime Victims Research and Treatment Center sexual assault
statistics reported 80 percent of sexual assault survivors knew their
assailant at least by sight. The impact left because of sexual assault
can be physically, psychologically and emotionally damaging, and denial
is particularly strong in victims who knew their assailants."
(http://www.onlinelawyersource.com/criminal_law/sexual_assault/statistics.html).
So how do we protect our children, especially our daughters, when
they're college-bound and away from home, helping insure their peace of
mind as well as ours? One way is to give them the gift of a female
self-defense workshop. The odds of our girls being attacked, assaulted
and potentially raped is higher when they're alone, perhaps walking to
their dorm in the evening, going shopping, even studying in a secluded
library. There will be times when they will be alone . . . and
potentially vulnerable.
Vulnerable that is if they have no skills to defend themselves. The
reality is that women who fight back in an assault have a greater
chance of survival than those who do not fight back. Predators prey on
the weak, not the strong. When confronted with a daunting adversary,
predators move on to other prey, weaker prey. Giving our girls the gift
of empowerment viz. a viz. women's self-defense lessons helps them
protect themselves when we cannot. After all, when our children become
adults, it's their responsibility to protect themselves. Having them
study martial arts or taking a self-defense workshop (perhaps with Mom)
designed especially for females, is one means of helping them help
themselves. It is also one means by which we, as loving parents, can
help insure the safety of our beloved children and daughters,
especially when they're college bound.
~finis~
Kind regards,
Richard Andrew King: Grandmaster, Kiado-Ryu Karate